Growing up, my grandma taught me a lot about creating a haven for others. Here are five of her lessons…
Everyone longs for a haven. But when you’ve actually experienced one, it makes you crave one – and want to create one – even more.
I was blessed to grow up knowing the haven of my grandparents’ home. (Grandparents are wonderful, aren’t they!?)
While my grandparents must have been stretched raising seven children and caring for aging parents, I never noticed. Their home brimmed with people – and love.
My grandma’s loving smile and genuine concern helped welcome everyone. And it was her warmth and focus on others that mattered.
It didn’t matter that her home didn’t have the newest furniture that matched. It didn’t matter that gourmet food didn’t grace her table. It didn’t matter that her home wasn’t spotless.
What did matter is that she made the best of what she had.
Whenever we walked into her home, it wasn’t the belongings or furnishings that stood out. It was my grandma’s smile, her friendly greeting, her laugh, and her questions about your life that made you instantly feel valued, appreciated … and at home.
People were a priority for her. And whenever people were in her home (which was quite often), they were the focus … not housekeeping.
5 Lessons My Grandma Taught Me About Creating a Haven
Those aspects set the stage for a lovely home. Yet to create a haven, we’d all be wise to follow my grandma’s example:
- Smile. And smile a lot.
A smile doesn’t cost you a thing, but it can brighten someone else’s day and set the tone.
- Have a friendly greeting for everyone who enters your home.
Be sure to welcome people – whether they’re guests or they live with you every day – whenever they come to your home.
- Laugh. And laugh often.
Life’s too short to take everything so seriously. Lighten up a little! Laughter will make things better.
- Be genuinely concerned about others and ask thoughtful questions about their lives.
It’s not always easy to think about others first. But try to show a genuine interest. Ask deep (and shallow!) questions to find out more. Invest yourself in someone else’s life.
- Make people the priority. Not things. And not housekeeping.
It’s hard to NOT focus on what’s in your home when you think about creating a haven. But at the very heart of a haven is people. When you make time for relationships and forget about the stuff around your home, you create a loving place where people feel welcomed and wanted.
With the warmth of these simple personal touches, you can transform any place into a haven. Just like my grandma did.
When it comes to creating a haven, what lessons have you learned from your parents or grandparents?
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